Back when I was younger, I had a whole list of 'what I look for in a guy' and my ambition was to marry a rich, old and dying man because I thought no man will ever fit into my description so might as well find someone dying then take their inheritance and elope with a gigolo.
As I grow older, my ambition stayed but my 'what I look for in a guy' list changed. Not being bias towards that important someone, here's my list:
- He must be
-> taller than me when I wear heels
-> skinny
-> able to pull off Havaianas and shorts without looking like he works at NUM.
-> at least average looking (best if he's really handsome)
-> non Chinese (no matrep please)
-> scene kid/ indie kid
- He must have
-> chest hair, leg hair, hair everywhere to keep me warm
-> nice ,short, well kept finger and toe nails
-> facial moles (Dai Yang Tian!!) or moles everywhere
Nothing NOTHING about family background, financial status, The 5Cs or character. I never date a Chinese guy in my life, only The Angmohs and The Melayus. I never thought I'd be attracted to someone of the same race or able to hang out with someone of the same race. And also perhaps I wanted to 'pop' out a pretty mixed blood baby.
Aww. Isn't she cute?
Of course, after years of searching, falling in and out of 'love', I met someone that matched slightly half of my list; a list that did not include anything about characters. I thought it was a fairy tale because he's a model and I am not exactly the same size as him. In fact, I am twice his size. Then, things turn ugly and our time was up.
It was time to wake up. Wake up to reality. There is no such thing as fairy tales and there will never be. I changed my list slightly, adding another - to it:
-He should
-> be friendly to my friends and able to hang with them
-> never lay a finger on me
-> care for me more than I care for myself
-> allow me to wear the pants sometimes
-> able to provide for me and himself
Sooo,
Meet Eugene Koh, the love of my life; apple of my eye.
No words can describe how much he has done and sacrifice for me. He, however, do not paint my portrait on walls, come jogging with me in matching colored attire or walk into a tree while on the phone with me. But, I know I love him because of all the things he has done that has hence prove worthy of my love.
Let's make a wager before we watch the movie. Who will Beth pick?
-He is
-> taller than me when I wear heels
-> able to pull off Havaianas and shorts without looking like he works at NUM.
-> at least average looking (best if he's really handsome)
-He must have
-> nice ,short, well kept finger and toe nails
-> facial moles (Dai Yang Tian!!) or moles everywhere
-He should
-> be friendly to my friends and able to hang with them
-> never lay a finger on me
-> care for me more than I care for myself
-> allow me to wear the pants sometimes
-> able to provide for me and himself
Koh is the first Chinese guy I dated and I am lovin' every second of it. After holding, changing, looking thru the list again and again, I realized that the list is not important. Cliche-ly, what is important is the heart. Is how the love revolves as time goes by. Is how he treats you. Looks aren't important (at all) and for most people, looks are not the food on the table, its the quality and the amount of afford they put in.
When in rome, tells a story of a girl with no luck in love back in new york, went to attend her sister's wedding in rome and took 'magic' coins from a reputed 'foundation of love' . Almost immediately thereafter, she is pursued back to New York by a band of aggressive suitors whose coins she took, including a diminutive sausage magnate (Danny DeVito), a lanky street magician (Jon Heder), a doting painter (Will Arnett), and a narcissistic male model (Dax Shepard). Meanwhile, a smitten reporter (Josh Duhamel) does his best to convince Beth that true love isn't just a topic of fairy tales and romance novels.
Let's make a wager before we watch the movie. Who will Beth pick?I reckon Beth will pick the guy in the photo with her, the smitten reporter, Nick Beamon (Josh Duhamel). Doesn't that always happen in the movies? The dude on the poster with the chick is always together or will get together.
According to Wikipedia.com, the men in the movie who are wooing her 's characteristic are as follows:
- Josh Duhamel as Nick Beamon, a semi-confident and nervous man who is in love with Beth and is her primary love interest. He is desperate to win her affections and seems to love her very much.
- Jon Heder as Lance, a street magician who uses his talents to try to get Beth
- Dax Shepard as Gale, a self-absorbed suitor who falls under the spell of the coins and chases Beth
- Will Arnett as Antonio, a.k.a. Anthony or Tony, a wannabe Italian artist who follows Beth to New York
When you meet a guy, you expect/want security. I hereby dismiss wannabe Italian artist because he is a wannabe which means he is not down to earth hence no security. Nick is a reporter therefore he should be more stable which means security.
When you meet a guy, you expect/want qualities. There is no qualities mention of Gale so he is out too plus Nick is a nervous guy. Tell me, WHO DONT FIND A SHY GUY CUTE AND ATTRACTIVE? Yes, it might annoy you that he is shy and takes longer time to get to you but that means he is really sincere!
When you meet a guy, you want him to be honest (without tricks) so bye bye Lance the magician. I personally don't trust magicians even if there is no such thing as magic (actually there is, Dumbledore is god of all magic). But seriously, use your own qualities to get to meBeth and not magic tricks!!
Koh and I met on a sunny island called Singapore. There were no magic coins, no sister's wedding to attend, no no luck in love. If you want to watch a romantic movie with your love ones, do catch 'When In Rome' movie starting from 25th March 2010 and join the official Facebook and Twitter page!
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